Dear Helena, My wife and I are vegans. While the rest of my family is not, we nonetheless invited them for Thanksgiving dinner last year. We wanted to prepare as traditional a meal as possible for them without the turkey. Our family accepted and asked what to bring, to which we replied a salad. Then two days before Thanksgiving, we received both a call and an email from my brother and his wife asking if it was OK if they could bring a turkey (the sister-in-law offered to cook it here herself). We were insulted. How was my wife now supposed to prepare a large meal with a glad heart knowing our guests didn't want to eat our food? They claimed it was "to help us out" and "for their kids to eat."--Save the Turkeys

Dear Save the Turkeys, When you're a guest in people's homes, you must respect their wishes and customs. That holds true whether they're asking you to take your cute boots off at their front door, or to refrain from carrying a slaughtered carcass across the threshold.